Opening Doors: Initiating the Discussion about Depression with Your Teen
Starting a conversation with a young person you suspect might be dealing with depression can feel daunting. You might be unsure what to say or how to say it or worried about saying the wrong thing. Yet, initiating this conversation is crucial, as early recognition and treatment can make a difference.
The following list of conversation starters is meant to assist in breaking the ice. They're designed to convey your concern, create a safe space for dialogue, and remind the young person that they're not alone in their struggles. Remember, the aim is to listen, understand, and provide support. Each conversation is a step towards letting them know that help is available and hope is always within reach.
"I've noticed you haven't been yourself lately. Do you want to talk about what's going on?" This simple opener expresses your observations without making assumptions, leaving them free to share what they're comfortable with.
"It seems like you've been feeling down. It's okay to talk about it, you know." Here, you're reassuring them that their feelings are valid and can be shared.
"How are things at school/with your friends?" By asking about specific aspects of their life, you can gain insight into potential sources of their struggles.
"I care about you and your happiness. Is there something bothering you?" This conversation starter emphasizes your concern and care for them.
"It's okay not to be okay sometimes. We all have our ups and downs. Want to share what you're going through?" This normalizes the feelings of sadness and could make them more comfortable in opening up.
"Do you ever feel so sad that you don't know what to do?" This question lets them know that feeling lost is something others experience too, and it might lead to them opening up about their feelings.
"You seem to be feeling quite low these days. Sometimes talking about it can help. Would you like to?" This direct approach could encourage them to express their feelings.
"Remember, it's okay to ask for help when feeling down. Is there anything you'd like to talk about?" This reassures them that seeking help is not only okay but encouraged.
"I'm here for you, no matter what you're going through. Want to talk about it?" This reaffirms your support, showing that you're a safe person to talk to.
"Sometimes, when people are sad, they might think about hurting themselves. Are you feeling this way?" This question is sensitive but very important when you're genuinely concerned about their well-being. It should be asked gently and in a non-judgmental manner.
Engaging in an open dialogue about depression with a young person is an essential first step, but remember that it's just that - a first step. If you feel the situation requires professional help, do not hesitate to contact mental health professionals.
In Canada, resources such as Kids Help Phone offer professional counseling and support to young people. The Hope For Wellness Helpline is available to all Indigenous people across Canada. Experienced and culturally competent counselors are reachable by telephone and online ‘chat’ 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
For those in Greenland and other Nordic Countries, Nordic Welfare assistance and guide you to appropriate local resources.
For those in the United States, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support. Internationally, organizations like the World Health Organization (WHO) also provide valuable information online about mental health.
Remember, it's okay to ask for help, and it's okay to advocate for the ones you care about. There's always help available, and there's always hope. You're not alone on this journey.
